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Right from the beginning in network marketing, the quality of our choices
are going to deeply affect the quality of our experience.
Starting with the choice of company, the outcome of many events will be decided long before we experience any particular outcome. And more often then we think, some of our best results are obtained as a result of an action we took that was initiated with another result in mind.
Take the case of the Possicks and myself. I had spent the most part of my life living and working in France. When I returned to live in the United States in the mid-eighties, I went to an opportunity meeting in Los Angeles which introduced me to network marketing. When I came home that night, I had trouble sleeping. I had been introduced to the concept of leverage (more about that later), and I was deeply attracted to the idea that while I was sleeping or vacationing there could be over 1000 people working at some task for which I could earn residual income. How do you determine if you have residual income. It's quite simple. Stop working for three months, and if you continue to receive a check, chances are this is residual income. After this meeting I got involved. For a number of months, I spent my spare time signing people up to a new long distance service. I created a bit of momentum, got some people to come to one of the opportunity meetings, and somewhere in this process ordered some books about network marketing. Charles Possick, I believe, bought a mailing list from one of the people that sold me one of these books, and started mailing me letters offering his mailing lists, or a cruise on which I could network with industry leaders. Now when I bought whatever book I bought, this was a choice I made that was only partially conscious. What I thought I wanted at the time, was this book. I believe now that what I wanted was contact with the Possicks so that one day they would introduce me to Cell tech. What Charles, I guess, consciously wanted at the time was that I become a client because he had not yet even heard of Cell Tech. I don't imagine at the time he looked at my name on a label and was thinking that here was someone who would wind up bringing over 16,000 people into his downline in 16 months. He probably never even saw the label. My point is that sometimes a small, innocuous decision to do something leads to enormous, unanticipated results.
Almost ten years after the initial letter, I reached into a basket full of tapes I had received in the mail, and chose the tape the Possicks had sent me. I spent months trying to recall why I picked up the tape that day, (it had been in the basket for months) and then it dawned upon me that it was because I had recognized their name on the tape and all the other names meant nothing to me. What does it take to be successful in network marketing? Persistence and consistence, they say. Eight years of mailing letters to someone who never once responded personifies these qualities. I thought if I could figure out why I chose the tape that day, I would know how to guide other people to take the same action. I had lain awake for hours every night wondering how I was going to salvage my life, and every day the answer was within arms reach. I would pray to God for some answer to my pain, not aware that He had sent it months before. I wonder how many opportunities lay within arms reach that we don't recognize until we are truly ready. Sometimes we are so busy looking for gold, we walk right by all the diamonds.
The choice I made that day has affected my life so deeply, and now the lives of many others. And yet when I made that choice, to pick up the tape that day, I had no conscious awareness that my life would be impacted to such an extent. Every single moment of our lives carries within it this potential. I like the beauty of not knowing what result will come from a choice we make.
I was seeing a lady, Kathleen Loeks, during the breakup of my marriage, as a spiritual counselor, and she explained to me that before the breakup had occurred I was looking at a tapestry of my life with a really clear image where I saw myself as a father, husband, successful photographer, etc. and that this picture was very comforting. Now the threads of my life had come unwoven and there was no longer this image to hold onto. All the yarn had become unraveled and was lying on the floor, and it was frightening.
One of the big challenges in life is to have the courage to move out of our comfort zones where we feel secure, and expand ourselves by taking risks.
There is truth in the statement that if we keep on doing what we've been doing we will keep on getting what we've been getting. As I grasped the meaning of what Kathleen was sharing with me, I felt I was free falling and had nothing to hold on to. Later I read a Deepak Chopra book and he was talking about the beauty of existing in a place of unlimited possibilities. When we can just be and not try to manipulate the outcome of any action, just let go and let God, we are then in one of the most creative places to be. So as I looked at all the threads of yarn on the floor of my life, I realized that I had a choice. I could weave the threads back into a comfortable picture where I felt secure and thus overcome my fear, or I could just let go of my fear and trust that God would weave a better image and do a better job than I had done. Once again, as always, I had a choice of between living with fear or love. Having done so many things in my life that were motivated by fear, and my life having apparently fallen apart, I elected to try something different. Kathleen's husband, Derk, said I could look at the dark night of the soul as a place that was totally frightening, or I could look at it as the place where all great mystics go on their way to reuniting with the creator. As I could not seem to change the unfolding of certain events in my life that were more about what someone else was deciding, I (wisely, I think) decided to adjust my attitude.
By changing my choices, I could change my life.
Another therapist I was seeing, Ava, told me my wife must be thrilled with all the free therapy sessions I was giving her, because I would show up and spend the entire hour analyzing her. I just kept jumping from one therapist to another with the intention of finding someone who would say I was right, it was all her fault, and when it didn't happen I was left with the fact that I better look at my self. That is when it dawned upon me that I couldn't and shouldn't try to control her choices, and better start looking at what choices I had, and accept that it was my choices, and not hers, that I had some say with. I read a statement somewhere that the most important discovery of the past hundred years was that we could alter our lives by altering our thoughts. This is one of those pieces of information that we know deep within ourselves and that we sometimes take a long time to acknowledge.
As I gradually started to accept that it was myself I had to look at, I also realized that even though I could not change Nathalie or get her to do what I wanted, I could initiate some changes within myself that would have profound changes in my life.
There were many times during those years I felt that it was not just me against her, or my ideas against hers. Some days I would have this feeling that there was something bigger in all this that I just couldn't put words to. Later, I discovered what it was. The picture that I was holding on to so strongly was that of keeping the family together. This is one of those huge, archetypal feelings that plugged into a part of the mass consciousness. One of our most primal urges is to feel connected through a sense of family. Caroline Myss, in her wonderful book, Anatomy of the Spirit, refers to this connection as Tribal Power, which denotes group energy, group identity, group willpower, and group belief patterns. When we plug into this, our personal power gets expanded by those other like minded people. What I felt happened was that Nathalie was plugged into a different group consciousness, that of the women who were leaving the family environment to claim their independence, and a lot of her friends at the time were going through a similar experience. She also followed their methodology, which was to hire a lawyer, and aggressively pursue divorce. The reason I bring all this up is to illustrate a point. Sometimes when we have choices to make, we find ourselves gravitating towards a decision without understanding or consciously knowing why, and I believe it is because we are plugged into a group consciousness that we don't even realize we are a part of. When some days we wake up feeling fear, or discomfort, it is sometimes just a ground swell of emotion of our host group. So I am starting to pay more attention to what groups I am connected to by looking really closely at the different individuals that come close to me in my life. If I am emotionally connected with an individual, I want to be sure that I am not allowing my choices to be influenced by them and whatever group they might be connected to, unless I really feel attracted in a positive way to them.
When I joined Cell Tech, I felt an almost immediate change in my life, and I know this is because I immediately plugged into a huge group of like minded people all focused in the same direction that my deep self felt connected to. When I connected to this new family, my children connected with them through me, and I feel that this gave them a sense of security also. Now when I make choices, I know that as a leader in this company, the choices I make will affect thousands of other people, because many people now look to me as an example, the same way that I look to others in my life that I respect.
I often wonder what my spiritual teacher would do in any given situation, and I know that through him I connect to a huge group of other seekers and to his teachers, and to the deep connection he experiences with the God force. Free choice is God's gift to us, and what we do with this gift is the gift we give back to God.
Once you know clearly what your purpose is, you just need to ask yourself which choice would be most aligned with your purpose.
I have seen, so many times, people struggle with choice, not knowing which way to go, and what works for me is really quite simple. The reason most people struggle with choice is that they are not clear what their purpose in life is.
In other words, which choice would serve your purpose the most. If we consistently make choices that we know are helping us accomplish what we want most with our life, we are going to feel good about ourselves and our actions. If we are unclear about our purpose, we will make decisions that leave us feeling insecure and not even know what's wrong. The same holds true of certain actions, or goals in our lives. We can beat our heads against a wall trying to accomplish some action and not get the result we are looking for, ending up feeling frustrated and stressed, simply because we are choosing actions that are not in alignment with our higher purpose.
During my seminars I always ask how many people have a written, memorized, purpose statement and up to now I have never seen more than five or six hands go up. So most people can't make choices in alignment with their purpose because they haven't yet made the decision of why they are here in the first place.
Once you have made a conscious statement, it is obviously easier to make choices that will place you in harmony with who you want to be, but until you know consciously who you want to be, I think you will spend a lot of time doing things that other strong minded people have you doing that helps them to what they want.
Similarly, most people either work for themselves and their own financial security, or they work for someone else and help them reach their dreams, frequently at the expense of their own.
We have a choice with every moment of our life, and that is to live that moment in fear or to live it with love. When we choose fear, we can not live our purpose. It is only through love that we can do this. How can we know our purpose. That is the subject of the next two chapters.
| Introduction | Chapter One | Chapter Two |
| Chapter Three | Chapter Four | Tapes - Paths of Power |
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